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    Ok, for this post is gonna be short. Will let the pictures do the talking Anyway, after the lunch reception at Telang Usan Hotel, Deluxe and I went back home and get ready for the tea ceremony at my place. But once we reached there, apparently everyone wasn’t ready yet so they asked us to wait at our room. It was pretty much very red when we went in. We managed to rest for 15 minutes before being asked to come down and began our tea ceremony session once again. Here are the pictures on what happened during that time.

    So here we are off to SIB Canada Hill Church, where we were going to finally get married. And again, I would like to emphasized even though we did sign our wedding certificate earlier but we weren’t officially married. Not until we were married in front of God, so my heart began to pump fast as I couldn’t wait for it to be finally official. We arrived at church 8.45am, whereby the whole thing starts at 9am. And everyone was pretty shocked as we arrived way too early, as we see our guest entering the church until Aunty Lucy had to ask Alvin to drive us around because it wasn’t nice for the bride and groom to wait for the guest. Basically we just had to hide ourselves that’s all, so Alvin took us to somewhere slightly further up the hill and waited there. Then it wasn’t long before Jason gave Alvin a miss call telling him that it’s ok to come down already. So back we were again to the church, and this time we got out as how we rehearsed it last night.

Alban (my best man) & I walked first


Ring Bearer, Paige Boy, & Flower Girls

Father, Deluxe (forgotten to put her veil on), & Emily (Bride’s maid)

All Arrived

Everyone that showed up

    Once we’ve arrived at the front of the stage, an opening prayer. Then followed by Praise and Worship lead by Sis. Juliet. Once all was done, then the solemnization began. As Pr.Robbie explain to the congregation as we registered earlier here in Kuching, he then began the ceremony. We were asked to exchange our vows as well as our rings. After that was done, Pr.Robbie prayed a prayer of blessing and finally we are married Then we were asked to walk up to the stage to receive our wedding certificate which was presented by Rev. Peter Quick.

Receiving our Wedding Cert

    After that, the passage was read by Bro.Phillip Ngo who read from Ephesians 5:23-33 which reads :-

    For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

    Which was the main message from Pr.Robbie who gave us an explanation how God’s holy pattern of marriage is. And he explained how important is the role of the husband as the head of the family, but at the same time we as husbands must love our wives. The more we love our wife, the easier our wife will submit to us. And the role of the wife should always be the helper of her husband. And in his message he mention that, our wedding ring is a symbol that reminds us that we should continue to love each other. The more we love each other, the more shiny the ring will be. Indirectly saying that the more radiant how the husband and wife will be for others. ^_^ After the message it was a short video presentation that I prepare for the wedding. Below is the video :-

    After the video presentation, I had another session of Ceremony of Appreciation. During this session, both Deluxe and myself express our heartfelt gratitude to both our parents, as well as Granny who was able to attend our wedding ceremony. If it wasn’t for her, we wouldn’t have done the whole ceremony here in Miri. We thank her from the bottom of our hearts that she was able to sit so long, which is a very huge improvements where she said it would hurt very much by sitting too long. I would have regret if I did not held the ceremony in Miri, and she wouldn’t be able to attend my wedding later. But we were glad that we did it in Miri, despites of the doubts we had. But God has been good, and everything went smoothly that day. After we presented gifts for our parents, next on the list was a song presentation that I practice for weeks. Anyway, this is how I did. Would like to thank Nick, Adrian, Justin & Serena for playing for me. Here’s the video :-

    It was all good, then it was cake cutting then followed by Praise & worship. Then it was photo session time After that everything ended by prayer, where we all marched out and thank everyone by the door. Later lunch was served in Telang Usan Hotel. Thus end the 2nd part of my wedding. ^_^

Please take note that I’ll be breaking these wedding into different parts so at least you won’t get lost reading. Hehehe.

    On the 7th July 2007, I am officially a NMBC Certified Member. Ok. Probably you might be wondering what the heck is a NMBC Certified Member. Apparently this is basically Monkey’s term which stands for “No More Bujang Club”. I’m still pretty daze about the whole thing. As I’m probably what they call still on pretty much on cloud 9. Hahaha.. Ok. Here’s basically what happened on that very day.

    Well, I got up about 5am thinking to get ready and all, whereby Deluxe had to get up about 4.30am for her make up. William and Co ( William, His Mom & Sis) arrived at the hotel about 5am and began his work. Whereby for me, I went and had a quick shower and waited for time to pass. Mom was already up getting the place ready for the tea ceremony later during the day. So about 6.45am a friend of mine Tong Fook had already arrived coming to be my “Heng Tai”. Helping me to break down the door if necessary. Hehe. So while waiting for the others to arrive we’ve basically discuss our plans on how to get in, and by force if necessary. Hehehe. Alban was the next to arrive and followed by Jason. Alvin, who was my neighbor became our chauffeur for the day. So we headed off about 7.30 from my place to the hotel.

How I wish this was my car

    We arrived at the hotel about 7.45am, and I checked with my brother Jason the time so that we won’t be behind schedule. So off we go to the hotel room where my bride awaits. As we ascended to the stairs, passed through the endless hallway, and finally reached the door where my beloved awaits. But lo and behold, the door was shut and no one was there watching. So Tong Fook started banging the door asking it to be open, and so did I. Alvin had his moment of glory as well, hahaha.. But the door was still shut then finally it open, but it was only Ah Huat who came out of the room and quickly closed it shut before letting us in. So potong stim. Here we are again, trying to get them to open the door when Tong Fook started to yell we’re going to the church and walked away from it. After that, quietly he asked me to wait by the door while he was at the side there as if ready jump on it’s prey. True enough, not more than 20 seconds later the door opened and we all rushed in. Which we thought it was pretty easy and they didn’t even plan for it. So oklah. Not too bad.

    Once I’ve entered, we had a few photo session first before carrying on to the tea ceremony. Basically it is to connect large families on wedding days. Here’s a little write up which was taken from wikipedia :

    The tea ceremony during weddings also serves as a means for both parties in the wedding to meet with members of the other family. As Chinese families can be rather extended, it is entirely possible during a courtship to not have been introduced to someone. This was particularly true in older generations where the patriarch may have had more than one wife and not all family members were always on good terms. As such, during the tea ceremony, the couple would serve tea to all family members and call them by their official title. Drinking the tea symbolized acceptance into the family. Refusal to drink would symbolize opposition to the wedding and is quite unheard of since it would result in a loss of “face”. Older relations so introduced would give a red envelope to the matrimonial couple while the couple would be expected to give a red envelope to younger, unmarried relations.

    During this time of tea ceremony, gifts and blessings were given to Deluxe and I from family and relatives of her side, as a sign so that our marriage will be a long and prosperous one. After the ceremony, another photography session was held. Then it wasn’t long after that we decided to head over to the church. Thus end part one of our wedding.