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One of our favorite picture. Looking up for strength

I’ve been married happily for 3 years already, and I’ve never regret every moment of it.  Being with Deluxe has been a really wild and new ride for me.  If I had the chance to do everything all over again in my life, probably I wouldn’t want to change any of it.  If not, then I would not have met someone as wonderful as Deluxe in my life.  Maybe to some, I might still be what you called those honeymoon years.  True, but I guess it’s all about keeping the flame burning I suppose.

As of late, I’ve been hearing a lot of news which is unfortunately kinda sad.  Plus the drama that are currently being showed on TVs are pretty much portraying it about husband and wife getting divorce.  I wonder how could they ended up into that situation in the first place.  There’s this saying goes that, “Men will do bad things when they are rich, and Women need to do bad things in order to get rich”.  So what the bible say is true, “Money is the root of all evil” whereby you can’t serve 2 master at the same time.

Old Love

I was wondering what goes into their minds of these people who decided to cheat their spouses in the first place.  So I went and google and found quite a number of reason, but mostly summed it up into physical pleasure in the end.  And unfortunately things like this do happen to Christian family as well.  Maybe that’s why the church has been promoting quite a number of marriage counseling as well courses as of late.

I may not be in any position to make a comment or advise anyone about this.  But don’t you know what you’re doing is wrong and it could impact of the lives of their children very strongly.  Anyway, for more I would prefer to end up something like the couple on the picture as shown on the right.  I’ve took this photo few years ago, and I remembered they always take their daily walk every morning.  And there was another couple, whereby an old man would push her wife in a wheel chair every evening without fail around Kuching area.  I think you might have seen them around town, but it’s been a while since I last saw them.

No doubt in a marriage there would be ups and downs, but as how Will Smith would put it by stating that “Divorce can’t be an option. With Jada, I stood up in front of God and said, ‘Til death do us part.’ So there are two possible outcomes. One, we are going to be together till death, or two, I am dead.” I think that should be the way I suppose to work out a marriage.  Yes we may have disagreement in making decision, and sometimes we may be over against each other.  But we should never even think of divorce as an option.  And as of late, everyday I would always say a prayer before I start my day that I would always continue to love Deluxe for the person whom I fell in love with then, and will continue to love her till my last dying breath.  Even though I may be a Christian, but this is something which I will never ever take for granted anymore.

Mother Teresa once said after being given a Nobel peace prize she was asked, “What can we do to promote world peace?” She answered “Go home and love your family.“  And, if all of us did what she asked then I believe a lot of social illness would pretty much go away slowly by itself.  You know, I once over heard 2 men talking about men their age having an affair with younger women.  And they ask for a lot of things, so that they would be able to return the favor.  One of them said, “What for?  Not only you need to fork out money unnecessary but also you would be talked among her friends.  And words of mouth do go around quickly.  So to prevent things like that from happening, better don’t start it in the first place.“

Anyway, I’ve talked to Deluxe about things like this and I told her to rest assure that I won’t do anything to hurt her.  As I’ve always been opened with her in everything, so there’s practically nothing for me to hide with her.  The only thing I tried hiding from her was eating those road side burgers.  She has nothing against them, just that was worried about my cholesterol that’s all.  But there were once or twice I went and makan behind her back, she eventually found out that I ate them anyway even though I order without onions.  Lol.  She never got mad or anything, just that reminding me that it’s not healthy for me to eat those kind of things.  And eventually, I ended up giving in to her and pretty much stopped eating burgers from the roadside.  What to do, you’ll practically do anything for love.

The Day Esther Came

Ever since Esther came into our lives, indeed we had to make quite a lot of adjustments.  No doubt it wasn’t easy, but eventually we managed to pull through together even until today.  But I’ve got to admit that she does more of the taking care part, while Esther only follows me to go out and have fun. Hehehe.  But she indeed had raised a smart little girl, and I’m proud of her.  She really spend time teaching her in reading, as well as speaking.

And again, Deluxe and I are very open with each other.  And we can practically talk about anything and everything.  Even though we’re still married and all,  it feels as if we’re still during our courting stage.  Haha, and that’s the beauty of it I think.  Somehow the more I see her, the more I think about her, and when the moment I don’t see her. It’s like suddenly my world becomes very dark.  When she went to KL for a wedding for a few days, it seems kinda funny for me being alone at home.  I went and bought a few dvds which I ended up not watching as well, and I realized that not having her by my side is really depressing.  But we do sms and call each other in between just to see how’s she’s doing, and she just checking up with me on how I was feeling because I was kinda sick that time.  As she’s very concern with me, because she knows I’m the type of person who never take care of myself.  The joy of being loved and to love.

And I seriously don’t understand how could 1 person would give up everything just like that for someone else.  Maybe I might blame the media for making marriage as if they were dating and can easily divorce just a few months later.  It’s kinda sad when everything being showed just like that, makes it feel as if it’s a common thing.  So it’s ok to do it, because he’s doing it as well.  Anyway, this is just my point of view and I know I may be very bias and against extra marital affairs.  Just think about your family, and the person who wakes up with you every morning.  That very person, loves you for who you are in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer.  Plus it’s till death do us part.  Don’t throw that all away, and for those who might want to try something funny with married people. Don’t do it.  Even though the husband may not love his wife anymore, just remembered they were very much in love before and have children.  Don’t go and wreck it, as there are many more fishes out there in the sea.  Remember, if he is willing to leave his wife for you, you can be sure he’ll leave you for someone else.  So to prevent any headaches or heartaches in the future, don’t go and start trouble.

And before I end this piece, I just want to give you a tip on how I’m keeping and continue to fan the flame which had never been quench for over 3 years already is try to listen to the songs that actually brought you two together in the first place.  When you recalled the first moments of being together, you’ll be sure to appreciate your spouse even more because back then she was only your girlfriend.  Today she’s your wife.  You guys take care now.